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  • February 28 - Portsmouth Craft Beer Weekend Beer Dinner @ Portsmouth Gas Light Company, Portsmouth, NH
  • March 13 - A Hearthside Bounty @ Old Sturbridge Village, Sturbridge, MA
  • March 20 - A St. Patrick's Day Celtic Sojourn @ Sanders Theater, Harvard University, Cambridge, MA
  • April 4 - My birthday, and Red Sox Opening Day!
  • April 15 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Binghamton Mets @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • April 16 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Binghamton Mets @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • April 18 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Binghamton Mets @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • April 25 - Pawtucket Red Sox vs. Buffalo Bisons @ McCoy Stadium
  • May 2 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Reading Phillies @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • May 8 - Mike's birthday, trip to Mystic, CT dinner @ Seamen's Inne
  • May 9 - Visit to Mystic Seaport Museum, Mystic, CT
  • May 16 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Portland Sea Dogs @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • May 21 - Long weekend in Portland - Portland Sea Dogs vs. Trenton Thunder @ Hadlock Field
  • May 22 - Portland Sea Dogs vs. Trenton Thunder @ Hadlock Field
  • May 22 - Spring Brewers Festival, Portland, Maine
  • May 23 - Portland Sea Dogs vs. Trenton Thunder @ Hadlock Field
  • May 30 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. New Britain Rock Cats @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • June 13 - Pawtucket Red Sox vs. Louisville Bats @ McCoy Stadium
  • June 20 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Erie Sea Wolves @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • July 4 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. New Britain Rock Cats @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • July 11 - Pawtucket Red Sox vs. Syracuse Chiefs @ McCoy Stadium
  • July 18 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Binghamton Mets @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • August 7 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Bowie BaySox @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium (Renew Your Wedding Vows Night)
  • August 8 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Bowie BaySox @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • August 15 - Pawtucket Red Sox vs. Buffalo Bisons @ McCoy Stadium
  • August 22 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. New Britain Rock Cats @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • August 29 - New Hampshire Fisher Cats vs. Portland Sea Dogs @ MerchantsAuto.com Stadium
  • September 3 - Labor Day Weekend in Portland - Portland Sea Dogs vs. New Hampshire Fisher Cats @ Hadlock Field
  • September 4 - Portland Sea Dogs vs. New Hampshire Fisher Cats @ Hadlock Field
  • September 5 - Portland Sea Dogs vs. New Hampshire Fisher Cats @ Hadlock Field
  • November 6 - Maine Brewers Festival, Portland, Maine
  • November 13 - New Hampshire Brewers Festival, Manchester, NH




































Terror Alert Level

My best friend has left me…

…and this is the only video I have of him. I know it’s just a promotional video for the locket, but that and a lot of still photos…and the locket…are all I have left of him. And his ashes, when we get them back.

I had only recently gotten the video camera when I made this video a few months ago, and now I wish I had taken more movies of him.

I got up to go to the bathroom early Saturday morning, and found that Mitty the Kitty had expired…believe it or not, the same place where we found the Stripecat…on the bathroom floor, on the rug in front of the toilet. At first I thought he was just sleeping, but when I reached down to pet him, he didn’t move. I picked him up…his eyes were open, but weren’t reacting. He was most definitely gone.

Mitty has always been “my” cat….he decided this a little over 14 years ago when I adopted him and his sister, Dusty, as little kittens. Mitty almost died before his first Christmas, when he ate tinsel off the Christmas tree, and it got stuck inside him and caused problems. The vet could try surgery, but it could be risky, he said.

I cried the whole night when Mitty stayed over at the vet’s. But I was so happy when I got a call the next day saying that the tinsel had been gacked up. They were giving him some kind of fluid which helped him to pass it. They saved the clumps of tinsel that he gacked up, and it was a LOT.

Mitty got to come home that day, and he was soon back to his robust self. And in all of these years, he’s never had any other serious health problems. As he aged, he became more sedate and less kitten-like, but that is to be expected.

Mitty hated the Stripecat, and vice-versa. Mitty tried to kill Stripes when he first came here, malnourished and with a sprained paw. I had to keep them separated for a while, until Stripes regained his health. After that, they would get into some knock-down, drag-out fights, where the fur was literally flying, and they both had their share of war wounds, mostly in the form of scratches on the face. As both cats grew older, though, the animosity slowed down to where, if they passed each other, there’d be some hissing and growling, and that would be the end of it.

Did Mitty die of grief…did he realize how much he missed his “enemy” of many years? Why was it that he was found in the exact same place, and almost the exact same position, as we’d found the Stripecat a few weeks ago? They were here together for around eleven years, which is a lot longer for a cat than it is for a human.

Or maybe he just got old and died naturally, in his sleep. We’ll likely never know for sure.

Mitty has been my best friend for a little over 14 years. He’s been there for me through a failed marriage…once the ex accused me of loving Mitty more than I loved him. I told him he was probably right…at least Mitty always loved me for who I am, and never gave me any shit like he did. Mitty never liked that guy very much, anyway.

Mitty always seemed to know when I wasn’t feeling well, or was sad. He’d always come to me and try to make me feel better. Even when I was sick last week, he was there for me.

He was always afraid of strangers. He also hated everyone in my ex’s family (smart cat!). When I first met Mike and he came over for the first time, I warned him that Mitty would probably run and hide from him. Imagine my surprise when he just walked right up to where Mike was sitting, and jumped into his lap! Maybe it was his way of telling me, “Mommy, this is a good one…keep him around!” Who was I to argue?

Mitty hardly ever meowed. But he had the most expressive green eyes…every time he looked at me, I could see the love he had for me in them. He used to hang out by the table when Mike and I were eating, and just sit down on the floor and make what I called “adoring greens” at me. And if I was eating something that he might like, such as chicken or fish, and it wasn’t too spicy or anything, I’d cut off a small piece and give it to him. Not too much, though…around here, human food is reserved as a special treat for cats. Every Thanksgiving, they all get some turkey and gravy in their dishes. But a little bit doesn’t really hurt anything. Mitty was so good at playing the eyes thing, I could almost never refuse him when he looked at me that way. Sometimes I had to, when I knew that what I was eating wasn’t good for him.

Long ago, I made up a little song…”I am wanting of Mitty…and Mitty is wanting of me!” almost always, when I sang it, he’d come to me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sang it between Saturday morning and now, and no Mitty was forthcoming.

He also understood “where’s my kiss?”, although he didn’t feel like cooperating for the video. He did come back to get kisses after the video was done, though. Typical cat! Usually, when I asked for my kiss, and made the kissy noises, I’d get some serious headbutts in the face, accompanied by loud purring. He was giving me my kisses just about to the end.

So this is why I wasn’t sure I even wanted to go to the beer festival. I thought I was feeling well enough to withstand it. But getting up and finding that your best friend of 14 years has passed away, with no warning…it sort of put me into a relapse. I was throwing up again, even when there was nothing there to gack up.

I eventually decided that I needed to get the hell out of here, and since it was by this time too late to cancel the hotel and get any money back, we’d go up to Portland, anyway. As for the beer festival…I was taking a “wait & see” on that one, knowing that I could easily re-sell the tickets to the sold-out event if I had to. There were a few people on the Maine Craigslist looking for tickets, I could contact one of them if I didn’t want to go. The important thing was just to get out of the house.

And getting out DID help. Mike said that I should not feel guilty over feeling better and wanting to do something fun…it would not bring Mitty back, and perhaps he would have wanted me to be happy instead of sad. He always worried about you when you weren’t feeling well, remember?

So we did go to the beer festival, and had a good time…for the most part. I have a rant about the “least” part for later.

Now we’re home, and I’m back to getting used to the fact that Mitty is not here. I keep turning around to look for him, but I will never see him again.

Farewell, best friend. I hope you are up at Rainbow Bridge, with Mister Bill, Lucky, Squeaker, and Stripecat. Tell them I still love and think about them, too!

Mitty’s Catster Page

15 comments to My best friend has left me…

  • Oh man… :( I’m so sorry…. I don’t know what to say, just wanted you to know I was thinking about you. Losing another kitty, and so soon… that must be so hard.

    Jennifer’s last blog post..Jenos/Totinos Pizza Recall

  • [...] But he won’t be coming to see me again. He passed away Saturday morning. [...]

  • OMG, I am so sorry Christine. (((hugs)))

    Jill’s last blog post..She should have known better

  • Kat

    Christine, I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face. I feel so bad for you and Mike, all your kitty family too.
    This is just so tragic and sad. I am so so sorry for your loss. :(

  • Oh Christine, I’m so sorry to read about Mitty, you poor thing, and poor wee Mitty. He was so beautiful, so cute. I’ve just got myself a wee kitty of my own and although I’ve only had him less than two months I couldn’t bear to lose him, it hurts just to think about it. I’m really sorry for your loss, but at least he had a good life, and probably didn’t suffer before passing away.

    And don’t you feel bad for enjoying yourself and relaxing a little; he definitley would have wanted that…cats seem to know when their humans are sad and upset and they don’t like it. Smile!

    princesse’s last blog post..Romantique

  • Kim S

    (Checking in from work)-

    Oh Christine! Not another one! Your post had me worried (the *It’s been a hell of a morning* post.) I had a feeling it was something major and I was right.

    I am so so sorry. (((hugs to you, Mike and the rest of the kitties)))

  • Oh, Jesus, Christine, I’m so very sorry for your loss! :(

    Lisa’s last blog post..Please Drive Gently.

  • Chris

    I’m sorry you lost such a sweet cat.

  • I’nm sitting here crying Christine, I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s been such a hard year for you guys. *hugs*

    Dyane’s last blog post..Not Up to It

  • “He’s been there for me through a failed marriage…once the ex accused me of loving Mitty more than I loved him. I told him he was probably right…at least Mitty always loved me for who I am, and never gave me any shit like he did. Mitty never liked that guy very much, anyway.”

    Christine, I have three cats, all of whom I love more than my ex husband ever did, and far more than I ever loved him. There was no debate as to whether there was shared access, or splitting them up. They are mine. And thankfully my gorgeous other half loves them too. I have tears streaming down my face after reading your post. I am so so, so, so sorry you lost Mitty. I know how awful it is, I still weep occasionally about losing Millie and it’s been almost 7 years. Think of the good times, the beautiful times you shared. My heart goes out to you.

    Smartie’s last blog post..Evan White, Mark Timms & Robert Howie – Thou Shalt Not Lie

  • Marsha

    Oh Christine! I am so sorry. I have always thought fondly of Mitty because he looked so much like my Jake. Now they are both gone and I grieve for both of them. Even after 3 years, I miss Jake just as much as when he died.

    My heart goes out to you.

  • Joy

    Christine and Mike,
    So sorry to hear about the loss of your furbaby. I cannot imagine how devestated you are after the loss of stripecat and now your other furbaby. Our thoughts are with you.

    Joy

  • I am sad to hear about Mitty’s death. :( *hugs*

  • Christine I’m so sorry to hear about Mitty.

  • (((HUGS))) I haven’t really been able to post because Mitty reminded me of my baby being a tuxedo and how much I miss him. I am so sorry hun. Its not easy losing one of your own.

    Christie’s last blog post..Happy Monday Morning to you.